This color was way too posh for some cartoony design. What you’ve got here is two coats of Deborah Lippmann’s Through The Fire, a deep burgundy red with a fabulous ruby shimmer to it. It went on a bit darker (in indirect light — it goes crazy in the sun) than I would have thought given what you can see in the bottle so I had to switch gears design-wise and settled on adding some gold swoops with a few rhinestone accents for effect. Simple and non-obnoxious wow for the holidays!
…and a quick note/thought on the language we use:
Had a great conversation yesterday with one of my old women’s group members about the use of “girl” vs. “woman” that I think speaks to the way a lot of us refer to ourselves and each other. Think about it for a second: how many times have you called yourself or someone you know a girl recently? And are you/were they out of high school?
It’s an easy throwaway word in our collective vernacular — it’s cute and friendly, non-threatening and precious…. and usually incorrectly used. Even Webster is hip to it:
1. a female child, from birth to full growth.
2. a young, immature woman, especially formerly, an unmarried one.
3. a daughter: My wife and I have two girls.
4. Informal: Sometimes Offensive. a grown woman, especially when referred to familiarly: She’s having the girls over for bridge next week.
5. girlfriend; sweetheart.
1. the female human being ( distinguished from man ).
2. an adult female person.
3. a female attendant to a lady of rank.
4. a wife.
5. the nature, characteristics, or feelings often attributed to women; womanliness.
So why do we call ourselves girls, or let others call out to us like a child? It’s poor conditioning. It’s widely used. It’s a sexist, socially-acceptable way of subconsciously demoting our gender. Men would wince if you called them “boy” and quickly correct you to use “man” — we should insist on the same respect for and of ourselves.
I haven’t been a child for a long time, and have earned my stripes as a strong, independent and capable woman. I bet you have too. I’m not a girl, I’m a woman.
Here’s a great article on point from The Wake Magazine, and a video from Ignite NYC (speaks to women in the tech sector but definitely applies more broadly):
“If you want to be respected in tech as a woman, don’t call yourself a girl. See if we start referring to all the women who work in tech as women then we will have a lot more women when we get rid of the girls. And when I say women I mean people who menstruate and pay taxes.” — Caroline Drucker